All About Self Reflection (+ journal prompts)
Hello everyone and happy Wednesday! Today is an exciting day because we are getting my sister all moved into college, we’re having a little road trip and getting her all settled into her new home. For this week's blog post, I wanted to talk about self-reflection and how important it is.
So what really is self-reflection?
Self-reflection is examining oneself and thinking deeply about one's character and motives in order to grow and better as a person. I like to compare it to your actual reflection. When you look in the mirror what do you see? Your outfit, hair, and makeup. When you look in the mirror, you see your appearance and are very familiar and comfortable with that image. What the mirror doesn’t show, is what's inside. Self-reflection is looking inward, within yourself, and it is a long process but is crucial to deeper understand your character and who you are.
Self-reflection is also important when working towards a specific end goal. Checking in with yourself and reflecting on your actions while looking at where you want to end up, will do wonders on helping you achieve your goals. Looking back on your behaviors and actions, you will be able to see what worked and what didn’t and it will almost act as a way of measuring your progress.
Like I mentioned earlier, my sister is moving out today. AHHH! I’m so excited for her and this next journey she is taking in life. Not having Izzy home is going to be a huge change for all of us and it has already greatly affected our family and she hasn’t even moved out yet LOL. For those of you who are a twin, you know having a twin is so special and your bond is so tight. Everything I’ve done in life, I’ve done with her by my side, including 13 years of school together. Of course I’m going to miss her so much and struggle when she’s gone, but something that has really helped me with this whole process is self-reflection.
By me taking a step back and acknowledging the way I feel, while taking her thoughts into consideration, our relationship has gotten stronger. Self-reflection will not only help with your inner self but also improve relationships in your life and help you recognize your true values and thoughts.
So how does one self-reflect?
Well, self-reflection can be done in a number of ways and we all pretty much all already do it in our daily life.
I try to do a little self-reflection at the end of each week and a bigger one at the end of each month.
One of my favorite ways to self-reflect is to talk it through. Pull someone aside you feel comfortable with and just talk to them. It’s important for you to let them know just to be open ears and try not to constantly add their input. The goal here is to walk through how you're feeling and your thought process without being interrupted. It’s important to ask yourself a couple of questions similar to these:
“Why did I act the way I did and how can I improve it in the future? If I was put in that same scenario how would I act differently? How can I better myself?”
Another one of my favorite ways to self-reflect is to journal. So if you don’t have anyone at the moment to talk to or you simply just feel like being alone, journaling is a great way to release some stress and identify why you act the way you do and better understand who you are. You can ask yourself the same questions mentioned above as your journal prompts.
Reflecting each month is one of my favorite exercises. Some journal prompts/general questions I use are:
“What did I accomplish this month? What do I need to work on? Highlight and lowlight of the month?”
It’s important to be honest with yourself here and be realistic, you’re not going to get anywhere with denial, call yourself out and break it down. You got this!!
"The journey into self-love and self-acceptance must begin with self-examination. Until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life." - Iyanla Vanzant